He remembers the date: 24th November 2002.
And the time: 12:30 pm.
Admiration and deep respect already profound for his father, this date and time solidified a father's influence over his son; a military career fated.
"I was a big fan of my father. He was in the army so..."
But would he have wanted that for you?
Born and raised in Iraq's capital city of Baghdad, 29 year-old Amer was born into a typical Upper Middle Class family. The last of five children, he enjoyed considerable stability in his childhood that comes with being that.
Fast forward to the events of 9/11, which made some kind of military action by the U.S. in the Middle East imminent. However, his father's death 6 months prior to U.S. led invasion was not.
"I remember it very clearly," said Amer of his father's death. "He died of a stroke," he revealed, his tone indicating a felt sorrow that was under no circumstances to be explored further.
I can't understand, but I can oblige his unspoken request.
Despite his idyllic childhood, it was subject to a few intermittent showers of change. Saddam Hussein invaded Kuwait in 1990 threatening some aspects of his childhood normalcy.
"The culture changed," explained Amer. "Saddam Hussein started distributing Islamic materials in schools, which if you were Muslim you had to read and learn. In fact you had to pass a test if you were going to advance to the next level."
"At that time, everybody started wearing headscarves. Before, not many people did. I remember looking through old family albums at the time and seeing women in my family wearing skirts and no headscarves. But after that time it changed."
And up until then, there were no real signs of fortuitous change in the future.
And then 9/11 happened, changing everything about life in Iraq and the world forever.
Not taking the same university route as his four older siblings, Amer decided in homage to his father to join the military, a risky career choice post 9/11.
As a result of his fluency in English, he received full military training in England for one year in 2012.
Immediately on his return to Iraq, there were signs of trouble brewing.
"Intelligence in the army took my passport for 6 months for some kind of investigation," said Amer.
Being Sunni in a predominantly led Shia army made a smooth assimilation into the army difficult.
"Being Sunni your time was doomed. Shia don't want you because you are Sunni and Sunni don't like you because you are seen as a traitor for serving in a Shia led army. I had no sense of belonging and my frustration was real,"
With ISIS I am dead with Shia militia I'm dead," said Amer. I knew that for safety reasons I had to leave the army... and Iraq."
Leaving behind everything, Amer came to Turkey in mid 2014 and registered himself with the U.N. as a refugee.
"I will never return to Iraq. I don't see an end to this sectarian strife. I can't risk going back to Iraq now. For what? I am 29 and single. I have to start fresh."
Responding with disdain to the word refugee, Amer reveals the reality of being one:
"You have all these abilities, but you can't use them," he said referring to the prohibitions placed on refugees to work in Turkey. "You have to sit and wait for someone to save you- no autonomy."
His wait is a long one. The U.N. issued the interview date that will decide his application for asylum for 2020.
Until then Amer lives in hope of only one thing:
"I need a new identity."
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