I think about my grandmothers. I think about them a lot.
Of course, through familial discourse, I know of their history: birthdays, wedding days, places lived, places visited etc. But yet I know nothing of them.
I know nothing of their feelings, emotions, experiences, points of view or even likes or dislikes.
Imagine, me, their legacy- the spawn of their existence, and yet I know them no better than the man, woman or child right now obliviously passing by the cemeteries in which they lay.
I know them not and for that I am sad.
Plan Your Legacy Before Your Will
During many moments, good, bad and mundane in my life, have I thought of how they would have responded. I have no doubt that their children- my parents and aunts and uncles can, to the best of their ability, tell me... what they believe.
It could never be the truth as told by these two women.
How I wish I could have access to their soul's inner convictions and fears.
Personal belongings of no real value- to me, were instead, carefully, willed and yet their most important cache was not.
It left this world, when they did.
My Blog, My Legacy
I don't know if I will ever have children. However; I don't believe that legacy is limited to progeny.
Hell!! You lived a life that is just as valuable and noteworthy as the children that you birth.
Therefore, regardless of whether there is a descendant with whom to share my life and its many lessons, I believe that building a legacy that is built on authenticity, vulnerability and truthis important.
And it is just not to fulfill the need to flex the muscle of narcissism that is so pivotal in today's society. It is to ensure that the most valuable part of you has a chance to be narrated, curated and disseminated by you.
In every culture, religion and Age we find powerful stories of people- real people who actually lived. The potency of their stories, no matter how simple, which they often were, can inspire, deter and transform.
I believe so. And that is why I am telling you who I am, how I feel and what I believe.
Because to do so: bare my soul to whomever; telling you the truth of myself, is better than gifting you something.