If but for the challenge, to which my Aries self rises, I would refrain from what I am about to do.
Tell of an experience so felt, that though, not even mine, still, had the potency to heal...me.
Ebru and Ihsan
I met her first and was immediately struck by the poise of her beauty and sweet innocence. She seemed unaware of what she possessed, making her appear even more regal- Princess, not Queen like.
Waist length, strawberry blonde hair that fell in soft wavy tumbles, made even more dreamy by doe eyes, winged by long heavy lashes, she spoke in shy giggles and blushing cheeks.
"Mersin," she said,
Revealing the place from whence she came. I guess I too simultaneously revealed my infatuation, for someone nearby noticed saying,
"Girls from Mersin are like that."
Thank you, perfect stranger for your valued insight.
As we stood and engaged in halting conversations, I searched for, in hope of finding, a depth of personality that would take me beyond what I was sure of by now had to be a veneer of sugary, sweet and unspoiled.
His arrival did just that. Ironically sweet and endearing too, Ihsan's very protective adoration of his fiance indicated that their love was soul deep and a welcome responsibility.
He asked about the delivery of her English with the same serious inquisitiveness of a father during a parent/teacher meeting. Hence why I initially thought him to be an older brother, cousin or even uncle.
Fluent in his use of English, he explained that his wish for Ebru to achieve the same level of mastery, was indeed a shared goal, for which he took responsibility also.
I was surprised by his support for her development especially because of their tender university age.
After this initial meeting, I saw and met with them often.
As our comfort with each other grew, so did my interest in knowing the secret to their very simple but solid love that had welcomed responsibility written all over it.
Growing up in the Caribbean, men rarely displayed this level of commitment and support, in as much as women rarely displayed Ebru's sense of worth and courage to clearly state requirements for a relationship partner.
I know this because many times during our conversations, Ihsan would indicate without any signs of frustration (mundane) things that he did for her (daily) as a result of her ego-free articulated requests.
The commitment of their love could not be satisfied by the ubiquitous title of boyfriend and girlfriend. It had to be confirmed with two very 'commitment' looking platinum rings.
Furthermore, he was required to accompany her to most, if not all of any curricular activities that would improve her English.
I think what was so impressive about them, was the level of self-possession with which they both fulfilled their responsibilities to each other.
Never did they or their union appear lacking or depleted in time, energy or self-respect.
Thank you Ebru and Ihsan.
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